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Skip to Main Content × MAIN MENU U.K. edition NEWS ExplainersLatest NewsWorld News COST OF LIVING POLITICS Boris JohnsonBrexitLabourConservatives ENTERTAINMENT Celebrity NewsMusicFilmNostalgiaSoaps LIFE HealthMental HealthSex & RelationshipsWellbeingGreen LivingTravelFood & DrinkMoney & WorkHome & Garden SHOPPING PARENTS Life As A ParentMumsDadsBabies & ToddlersParent Voices PRIDE FROM OUR PARTNERS That Reading Feeling AwaitsTeach in Further Education FOLLOW US Terms | Privacy Policy Part of HuffPost News. ©2023 BuzzFeed, Inc. All rights reserved. NewsCost of LivingPoliticsEntertainmentLifeParents U.K. editionOpen editions submenu NewsAzad ChaiwalaCulturelifestyle POLYGAMY -- WOMEN WANT IT TOO More women than you'd think are keen on sharing the love, reveals the founder of polygamy.com and secondwife.com. By Zongile Nhlapo Lifestyle Reporter for HuffPost SA 21/11/2017 03:41pm GMT |Updated November 22, 2017 JackF via Getty Images The biggest misconception there is about polygamy is that many women don't want it. Yet, 25 percent of users of Muslim matchmaking site secondwife.com are reportedly women, while interdenominational site polygamy.com reports that 35 percent of its users are of the fairer sex. "Every single one" of the women users "made the active choice to sign up, choosing this lifestyle and relationship type themselves," commented Azad Chaiwala, founder of both these sites. Advertisement > "Through polygamy, women get a recognised and acceptable form of relationship > that both parties invest time and effort in." Speaking to HuffPost SA, the British businessman said he reckons his sites are popular with women because polygamy "safeguards" their rights in an "honourable manner". A mistress is generally unable to choose the direction of the relationship and can't talk about it to anyone. An affair is not recognised by friends, family or the community, and it can be ended with a text message, he said. Through polygamy, on the other hand, "women get a recognised and acceptable form of relationship that both parties invest time and effort in", the 34-year-old explained. Advertisement Chaiwala, who started Secondwife when he was in the process of finding a second wife, dismisses the idea that polygamy makes it easy for men to be promiscuous: "The truth is far from this. Easy is an affair or prostitution, where women are treated and priced as commodities without any human feelings: you use, you pay and walk away." READ: Polygamists In The UK Can Now 'Find' Second Wives Online He argues that polygamy takes into account women's need for safety, security and reliability. The businessman also dismissed the idea that only financially desperate women enter into polygamous marriages. The women who have signed up to his sites are "lawyers, businesswomen, doctors and teachers," he said. "It would be nice if men don't take women with no careers, so it does not become about means," famous television polygamist Musa Mseleku from KwaZulu-Natal told HuffPost SA previously. "Doctors, lawyers, engineers, well-to-do women (must be taken), so that love becomes the common factor." > A post shared by Luxolo Nkonzo (@mr.nkonzo) on Jun 10, 2017 at 7:18am PDT Advertisement Mseleku also pointed out how polygamy works well if it's a choice for both men and women. "Once it becomes a choice, sharing or competition becomes a non-issue." READ: Can You Actually Afford To Be A Polygamist In South Africa? Here's What It Takes And while Mseleku did not meet his four wives online, he said one question that has baffled him for years is why there are so many women without partners -- a question he is yet to find an answer to. "Every person must be honest and truthful to him or herself. Can you live life with one person? Start there," Mseleku said. "Don't try to live a lie, because you will hurt many people." Chiawala revealed that some of the women users of his sites are the daughters of polygamous marriages. "They have opted to use our sites because they want the same lifestyles for themselves and their children," he said. And while he believes this may not be everyone's cup of tea, he's against polygamists being vilified for choosing this lifestyle. Advertisement "Polygamy is above board. Families and communities are involved to create a new family. There is recourse in case things go sour." 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