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hjbender thesaltofcarthage
Gepostet am 25 Oktober, 2023 Gepostet am Mittwoch, 25 Oktober 2023 Gepostet am
Mittwoch Oktober 25th Gepostet um 22:48 Gepostet am Mittwoch, dem 25th. Oktober
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willow-lark



fuck marry kill: greco-roman columns edition (pictures below) 🏛️

fuck doric, marry ionic, kill corinthian

fuck ionic, marry corinthian, kill doric

fuck corinthian, marry doric, kill ionic

fuck doric, marry corinthian, kill ionic

fuck ionic, marry doric, kill corinthian

fuck corinthian, marry ionic, kill doric

Poll started on Saturday, October 21, 2023 at 09:59:00 PM Poll ended on
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thesaltofcarthage

this poll has made me very nervous

hjbender dduane
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mostly-funnytwittertweets




 * #art woes

hjbender angrymadsygin
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prokopetz

"But why do you follow all these people if they keep posting fetish art you're
not into" do you have any idea how boring my dashboard would be if I only
followed people who aren't into weird shit?

prokopetz

It's an unavoidable truth that interesting people are, more often than not, into
weird shit.

Sometimes the weird shit is a fun bonus.

Sometimes the weird shit is the price you pay.

hjbender beyoursledgehammer
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precariouswizardry




charlesoberonn

"A little" is exactly how much time you'll live.

 * #that rebuttal 💯💯💯

hjbender noctumsolis
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noctumsolis



This is a poll for people of legal drinking age in their county.




Be honest, is wine enjoyable?

Yes, I enjoy wine

I pretend to enjoy it

I am honest about disliking wine

Vanilla essence for results

Poll started on Sunday, October 22, 2023 at 05:58:16 PM Poll ended on Sunday,
October 29, 2023 at 05:58:16 PM
 * #a love of wine is encoded in my genes

hjbender jollibea
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thememedaddy




disgruntled-foreign-patriarch

Hence the invention of the Porch

pillarofawesome




hjbender dduane
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memewhore





Love me a good snerdle!

 * #snerdling rn

hjbender frodoshaggins
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hjbender thesaltofcarthage
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triximethtel



black cats 🐈‍⬛ 🎃🍂🔮☕️🦇


halloqueen31





Reblog and add a picture of your own black cat 🐈‍⬛ 🖤

thecaffeinatedbookworm




hjbender




 * #baby’s first halloween 🎃

hjbender drachenkinder
Gepostet am 24 Oktober, 2023 Gepostet am Dienstag, 24 Oktober 2023 Gepostet am
Dienstag Oktober 24th Gepostet um 14:56 Gepostet am Dienstag, dem 24th. Oktober
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clearancecreedwatersurvival

Okay I’m feeling kind of ranty about this still so I want to take this
opportunity to talk about narrative therapy, kink, and fanfiction.

Narrative therapy is a form of therapy that allows people to process trauma
through the slight removal and distance of story. Some griefs and pains are so
huge that even trying to process them can be overwhelming. Using the slight
distance created by talking about traumas instead through storytelling allows
people the ability to process difficult emotions easier.

This is why tragedy as a genre exists! The point of tragedy is catharsis,
feeling a powerful devastating emotion in its entirety letting it wash through
you and then pass. Opening ourselves to our own griefs can be unbearable, so we
as a species find it easier to process them through characters.

Narrative therapy allows people to write and rewrite their own life story. They
can change events that happen, or they can just find some measure of closure in
processing something through metaphor. It can restore a sense of control over a
life event that ripped away someone’s sense of self.

It is fairly obvious that a lot if not most people, especially when first
starting in the art form, write fanfiction as an intuitive form of self directed
narrative therapy. People love to project their insecurities and fears and
experiences and traumas onto their blorbos.

Bad things happen to people. No one gets out of life alive. Some people
experience the worst things imaginable and live to tell the tale. And sometimes
those people process their traumas through creating fanart and fanfiction.

If art that depicts terrible terrible things like sexual assaults isn’t allowed
to exist, then the people who have lived through them are forbidden from talking
about their lived experiences. Isolated. Their very existence a taboo subject.
People Need to be able to talk about their experiences, and survivors deserve to
be able to make or consume art that reflects their life without being told
they’re no better than whoever harmed them.

Now! That is not to say that everyone who consumes or makes erotica about a
taboo subject has to have experienced that thing. Sexual fantasy is complicated
and human brains are weird. But having sexual fantasies about a taboo subject is
NOT the same thing as doing those actions in real life and many people fantasize
about stuff that they have Absolutely no interest in actually doing. But trying
to police sexual fantasies just harms people’s experience of self!

Kink is not inherently evil! Kink is just roleplaying!!! Many common kinks are
reflections of larger cultural anxieties. For example, people socialized as
women are taught to always fear sexual assault. Is it any wonder that so many
have a cnc kink? Kinkplay or cnc erotica allow people to experience the feeling
of a complete loss of control and process that in a safe way that they actually
have complete control over.

Societies dominated by repressive religious morals already tend to result in
people having unhealthy relationships with their own sexuality. Cultural norms
around sexual purity do a number on people. I think a fascinating example of
this is the girl defined sister who has actually started talking openly about
how religious indoctrination about sexual purity almost destroyed her marriage
(while still maintaining that sexual purity is important. Of course. Because the
cognitive dissonance is strong). The saddest example of this I have seen is
teens on tiktok self policing their sexual expression to the point of feeling
bad for having a crush on a character their own age.

The answer to systemic sexual violence is not banning people from ever talking
about it or making art featuring it. The answer is better education and social
norms about consent and bodily autonomy, and a normalization of discussing
difficult and complex subjects, and addressing environmental pre conditions and
abuses of institutional power. It is not policing all sexual expression to make
sure it is morally pure.

Anyway all this to say I stand by my universal theory that:


FANFICTION 🤝 KINKPLAY 🤝 RPGS 🤝 NARRATIVE THERAPY

And please stop regurgitating christofash rhetoric about sexual and moral purity
while complaining about art you find gross and telling people to kill themselves
for having a slightly edgy ship. You are not preventing harm, you are doing
harm.

hjbender drachenkinder
Gepostet am 24 Oktober, 2023 Gepostet am Dienstag, 24 Oktober 2023 Gepostet am
Dienstag Oktober 24th Gepostet um 13:46 Gepostet am Dienstag, dem 24th. Oktober
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engulfes





F. Douglas Brown

hjbender dduane
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 * #obviously

hjbender calamity-cain
Gepostet am 24 Oktober, 2023 Gepostet am Dienstag, 24 Oktober 2023 Gepostet am
Dienstag Oktober 24th Gepostet um 11:28 Gepostet am Dienstag, dem 24th. Oktober
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bookwyrminspiration

if you all could see all the fanart i imagine in my head and never draw it’d
blow your tits clean off

 * #artist woes

hjbender robin-goodfellow
Gepostet am 24 Oktober, 2023 Gepostet am Dienstag, 24 Oktober 2023 Gepostet am
Dienstag Oktober 24th Gepostet um 10:18 Gepostet am Dienstag, dem 24th. Oktober
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byronicjamie





^this

hjbender oreana-galena
Gepostet am 24 Oktober, 2023 Gepostet am Dienstag, 24 Oktober 2023 Gepostet am
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toastbutteregg





i needed to read this today so im sharing it to all of you!!

 * #40 and just entering my prime

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