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THE LISTEN INITIATIVE "LISTEN BETTER, LIVE BETTER" Menu Skip to content * Home * About * Contact Search Search for: BILLY JOEL: PURVEYOR OF FINE HORROR AND HEAVY METAL April 10, 2020 / TheListenInitiative / Leave a comment Billy Joel made me fall in love with horror movies…oh, and heavy metal. * Fells good to get that off my chest. Sorry, let me provide a little context. I grew up in a fairly typical, lower-middle class, midwestern home. When I was younger Dad worked at a steel mill, and Mom taught piano lessons and worked at local call centers to provide. Home was typical of the region. Conservative, Christian values reigned and much of what our parents were protecting us from was anything that was perceived as a threat to our simple way of life. As such the following things were not allowed in my home growing up: 1. Bee Gee’s albums (Guys intentionally singing in that high register?…Not in our house!) 2. The television show Three’s Company (A man cohabitating with not one, but TWO women?!?! No way – This one turned out to be for reals problematic) 3. Balloons (Weird, I know…mom had a phobia of them) Typical conservative, midwestern values (with the exception of the balloons). With one notable exception. Cable TV. Dad grew up with nothing. His dad had an 8th grade education and his family could barely afford the essentials. When Dad became a grown up there were a few luxury items that he was willing to pay for no matter what. Being the sports nut that he was, cable TV was one of them (Golf was the other). Hmmm, did I also mention that I was an actual latchkey kid for a couple years? That’s right, I was a latchkey kid. Now before you go feeling too sorry for me, keep in mind that this was typical of the time. I was born in the late 70s, raised in the 80’s, and a teen in the early 90s. That makes me about as Generation X as you can get. Latch-keying was all the rage back then! We had parents that worked hard to provide out of love and they trusted us to come home from school and take care of ourselves. I had a chain with a house key on it that I would wear to school, and when I got home I would let myself in the house and fix myself a snack and wait for mom to come home. Once she got home from her day job she would then proceed to teach piano lessons into the evening which is when Dad would get home. I mentioned I had cable right? So as a young latchkey kid in the 80s I developed a best friend very quickly in the young, up and coming presence of a little thing called MTV. And this best friend was glorious. I would get home, dine on pop tarts and then relax in front of unsupervised Music Television that quickly was educating me on the world. In the early days MTV was all music videos, none of the other nonsense that it eventually became. Except there were only like 2 dozen videos that were on rotation. Same ones, over and over and over, every day. Even with the presence of MTV I was probably on course to be a perfectly typical, All-American Midwestern kid until this beautiful bastard in all his adult contemporary glory came into my life. And let me tell you, that dude did a number on me. It all started with this video. Do yourself a favor and watch this gem in it’s entirety. I’ll wait, it’s worth it. The young, unsupervised me had never seen anything like it. It simultaneously terrified and intrigued me. I couldn’t have been more than 7 years old when I first saw it. Almost every image in it scared me. (Now that I’m a grownup it should have scared me more to eventually face the pressure of adulting but back then? This was pure visual horror) I became scared that the floor in my house would eat me, my bedroom would fill with water…and that my own television would suck me into it. But even as these images terrified me, I weirdly also couldn’t look away from them. In fact I used to sit and wait for that video to come on just so I could be scared by it. That damn music video became the gateway drug for a multitude of scary movies that a kid my age had no business watching. Billy Joel’s Pressure became Poltergeist, became The Twilight Zone, became Children of the Corn, became Carrie, became The Shining, all before I was 10 years old. And even though they kept me from sleeping, I freaking loved them. *Weird side note. Why was getting sucked into a TV such an 80s horror trope? See Poltergeist and The Twilight Zone: The Movie. So what about the heavy metal? Just listen to the sound of that song. I immediately loved the intense synthesizer the first time I heard it. Having a mom that was a classically trained piano teacher meant that I grew up surrounded by classical music and busts of famous composers. I always loved the song In the Hall of the Mountain King, and this riff reminded me of that. It was intense and heavy like that song. The notes didn’t sound like other music that was on the radio. (Turns out it was played in a minor key to give it that intense sound JUST LIKE IN THE HALL OF THE MOUNTAIN KING!) – And then Joel’s singing, every time he said pressure he yelled it! As far as the 7 year old me knew, that intense sound may as well have been Reign in Blood by Slayer (Sorry, Slayer would come later for me). I freaking loved it. I began telling people I liked hard rock. Eventually someone asked me what hard rock bands I liked and I said Billy Joel. After facing the ridicule that followed I quickly recruited my friend Jon P to ride bikes with me (again, unsupervised) to the local Musicland store where I bought my first real metal album. Which only happened because of Mr. William Martin Joel. So the next time Billy Joel tries to convince you that he didn’t start the fire, just know that he’s not telling the whole truth. He lit the fire in me…for a lifetime of appreciating good metal and good horror. And so Mr. Joel, while you may be an easy target for the pretentious music snob that I eventually became, as far as I’m concerned I still like you just the way you are. Now during this pandemic stay safe out there folks. While you’re isolated create something, share some music, make a playlist, make a beat, even a bad beat. It will be worth it, you will have participated in the creative process. Which is exactly how Billy Joel would want it. And if you’re like me, it probably feels like you’ve been isolated for the longest time. Cheers, JJ POP VALUE PT 3: POP MUSIC PUPPETEERS November 5, 2018November 7, 2018 / TheListenInitiative / Leave a comment I recently found myself at a Zedd concert. More and more these days, rather than finding artists I like and buying tickets to see their shows, I find myself at concerts where the tickets are given to me free of charge and there are assurances that chairs will be available for me to sit in. My middle age cantankerousness and general frugality make the opportunity to sit down and free tickets the initial bar of entry for concert attendance these days. (An issue I need to remedy, but another time). As I sat there listening to Zedd for the first time and watching thousands of fans from my seat at the back, I was struck by the energy and enthusiasm of the crowd all jumping in unison with the beat and the flashing lights. I thought to myself, I get the draw. Not my thing, but I understand why people would get into this. In a sense, there was unity here, dare I say community? But then I had another thought. There was a puppet master on the stage pulling the strings to compel this action. And where there is a puppet master, there must be a puppet, right? I want to clarify here, this is not a commentary on Zedd, EDM, or loving to jump and dance at a concert, although if I find you jumping and dancing in front of me at a concert and obstructing the view from my seated position, we may have words. This is a discussion about the concept of manipulation. Music and manipulation actually go hand in hand. Probably more than any other art form. The majority of music, and not just pop-music, is built upon repetition and structure. The blues is as formulaic an art form as there is, generally combining a fairly rigid 12 bar structure and the use of proscribed notes of tension and resolution to deliver it’s effect. There is comfort in knowing the end from the beginning and having an intuition about the middle, but as with anything good, there seems to be a point where the milk turns. The question here is whether your pop-music has turned. And more importantly, how can you avoid going along without noticing. It’s midterm election week, so we might as well get into some politics, right? What could be the harm in that? In the aftermath of the 2016 election, there was an uproar about Russian manipulation of the American election system. All of the sudden, people were acutely aware that social media had been deceiving them! That it had been preying on their good-natured acceptance of the world reflected in their phone and tablet screens. But wait! What? The world is not what I see on FB?!? The feigned surprise at this revelation was somewhat comical, but not quite as comical as the ad FB damage control put out: I love how this is posed as a passive, “…and then something happened.” (If you haven’t read parts 1 and 2 of this series, you might want to go back and review. In part 1 we discuss the impact of money on the news). So I decided to call FB and chat with them about their ad. Me: “Oh dear! “Something happened?” FB, can you tell me!? What happened!?” FB: “…we had to deal with spam, and click bait…” Me: “Ok, ok, hold on. “Something happened…?” and then “we had to deal with…?” I’m not sure what the grammatical term here is, but I believe these passive sentences contain an object (us), but is missing an actor. The one who is making “something happen” and then making us “deal with [it].” FB: “Well, like the news media of the 80’s and 90’s, we realized we had a captive audience and now needed to monetize that. So we gave anyone with a checkbook the opportunity to reach you on a level that would, ahem, encourage you to act in a certain way, ahem.” Me: “FB, do you have a cold?” FB: “No.” Me: “Oh. Anyways, when you say “encourage,” what exactly do you mean? And encourage us to do what?” FB: “Ummm…” This imaginary conversation with FB went on for quite a while, but FB taught me some really important concepts, so I’ll save you some time and give you the cliff notes: * Humans are susceptible to all sorts of manipulation * Humans are also bad at realizing that they are susceptible to manipulation or knowing that they are being manipulated * Manipulation results in action * Action results in money * Money results in FB and humans * So, now that The Listen Initiative has so kindly informed you that you are susceptible to manipulation, and that you are bad at realizing it, and since we are obviously experts on the topics we write about so you should listen to us, you might ask, “what does that have to do with pop-music, and more importantly, what can be done?” I’m glad you asked. Consider the pattern of money and manipulation in the examples of the news media and FB, and consider that the purpose of a great majority of corporate sponsored pop-music is primarily to sell records, and you have an identical recipe for manipulation. And just like when your FB feed subjected you to spam and click bait, your pop-music subjects you to spam-like recycled ideas and click bait beats that set your mind on auto-pilot until, eventually, you don’t even realize that Russian trolls are telling you who to vote for and what to eat for dinner, and the monotony of your music turns your mind into mush. What to do about this? First, understand that you are susceptible to manipulation, and that companies are putting billions of dollars into understanding manipulation better than you can ever hope to. Second, where there is money, there’s a good chance there is an underlying effort to manipulate. And third, listen to the album Hunky Dory by David Bowie. A great album for resetting your manipulation index. It is an album that continually challenges our auto-pilot by taking songs and melodies to unexpected places, without going too far into avant-garde. Fourth, remind yourself of points one and two, and listen to Hunky Dory again. POP VALUE PT 2: COMMUNITY AND CONNECTION October 30, 2018 / TheListenInitiative / 1 Comment I had a unique experience this week at the movies. I was in a small California town about 40 minutes outside of Reno, NV. While I was there the new movie Mid90s was set to open up. As a teen product of the 90’s, I had been looking forward to seeing that film so I drove into Reno and caught it on opening night. I loved it. It was a great period piece but it didn’t just rely on gratuitous nostalgia, it actually had an interesting story with strong themes about the importance of connection. It’s a coming of age story that explores the skate and hip hop communities of the mid 90s. The main character navigates a difficult home life as well as life in the social margins in an effort to find connection. (*Editor’s note: This movie is not for those averse to the bad language or imagery of kids participating in illicit behavior) The soundtrack was amazing as well. In my opinion, for a movie like that to work, the soundtrack has to be perfect. This one was. I’m comfortable saying that the overall package of movie, music, and nostalgia belongs next to other notable nostalgia pieces such as American Graffiti, and Dazed and Confused. I digress…back to my experience at the movie. A fascinating thing happened during the show. I was at the movie by myself (as I do on the road) and a particular scene of the movie started. I should add a little context…many of the scenes in this movie feel specifically like they’re built around the songs that are playing in them. So much so, that the songs themselves become part of the movie scenery. It’s really well done. During this particular scene I began to notice the sound of a child’s voice in the background of the film. I thought it sounded familiar and after a couple of seconds I was certain I recognized it. As I was realizing what it was, I started to look around the theater. Down the row from me was another fellow, sitting by himself. He looked to be about my age and was wearing a Thrasher brand hat. I noticed he was alert and looking around as well. It felt like he was recognizing the same thing I was. I took my attention back to the movie and now I was certain what I was hearing. The child’s voice was a soundbite from the intro of a classic Kung Fu movie called Shogun Assassin where a child is describing his samurai father. The reason I knew this was because it was also sampled and used at the beginning of one of the great underground hip hop songs of all time The GZA’s classic song Liquid Swords. Sure enough, the kung fu sample in the movie transitioned into that classic GZA beat providing the background of a great scene in the movie. My new friend on the row with me and I just looked at each other with the same knowing grin as our heads bounced to the beat. We were smiling because we both knew the same thing…that only real Hip Hop heads from the early 90’s would know that track. We had immediate kinship. And why wouldn’t we? We now knew that we were alumni of the same fraternity. We had immediate community. And this fraternity that we were part of wasn’t something everyone was in. Only people with certain elevated tastes were granted entry. At the completion of the movie my new found friend and I didn’t have to exchange a single word. We gave each other accepting head nods, accompanied by that same knowing smile, and I got in my car to drive back to my hotel. As I drove through the Sierra Nevada mountains I contemplated the feeling of community I felt during the movie as well as the themes of community and connection that the movie itself explored. I couldn’t help but think about several conversations I’ve had recently in which I’ve found myself expressing dislike of pop music and defending higher forms or musical artistic expression. I will admit that I’m overly defensive of my music, and I will also admit that i’m particularly accusatory of pop. I think it’s because music very much represents community to me. For me, I think it’s always been that way. When I started 7th grade as a lost kid very much trying to appear cooler than I was, I remember wearing a KJQ radio station t-shirt (KJQ was the last real bastion of independent rock radio in my home state). And I’ll never forget the day that the older kid in my math class looked at me and said, “cool shirt bro. What kind of stuff do you listen to?”. Now that I think about it, that might have been the very beginning of music representing my community. Fortunately for me, I gave the right answer to the older kid. From that point on, music has served continuously as a gate into community, and a great finder of friends for me. I remember sitting in my freshman math class and having a senior see the De La Soul – 3 Feet High and Rising cassette in my bag, and him saying to me “Dude, you listen to De La?! Nice!”. I never felt more cool. I remember my older friend, D, trusting me enough to give me a copy of a Meters tape and then later listening to me talk about how it changed my life. I remember another older friend, B, who gave me a mix tape of Neil Young songs after he found out I played the bass, and then him inviting me to come jam with him. Again, never felt cooler. And it continued. After high school I spent a couple of years in Washington State. I was young, in a foreign state, and didn’t have any friends that went there with me. Some of the best friends I made there started with the simple question, “Hey man, what do you listen to?”. And if the answer was correct we instantly bonded. My friend J loved punk, for my friend B he dug classic rock and deep funk, and when my other friend B said he dug Black Star I knew we were kindred spirits. When I moved back to Utah and continued college, I really only made 1 friend during my undergraduate years. That was R. We quickly bonded over a common love of sitting in the back of all of our classes, making fun of the same people, and quoting early 90’s hip hop. And when I eventually met LP (the more logical half of the Listen Initiative) one of the very first discussions we had was around music as we were both testing the waters of the other person to see if their taste in music was good enough to warrant continued discussion. Which it was. And it did. (To the tune of about 90 typed pages of dialogue discussing art, music, expression, and more) Speaking of LP, I hope you read his recent pt.1 post about pop. He asked some important questions. His point about the value of a glass of water wasn’t lost on me. I think this is why I tend to get a bit defensive when it comes to taste in music. For most people, community and connection is as necessary as that glass of water in the desert that is life. I’m an unusual individual in that I’m an outgoing introvert. This means that I am not shy, and I give the appearance of being an extrovert publicly. Unfortunately though, social interactions, engagements, and relationships emotionally exhaust me. For those of us with the introvert gene, often times community and social connection is experienced within the margins where we seek a form of social authenticity that isn’t readily found in the overproduced, mass distributed, loud, inauthentic, watered down, vapid sections of popular social structures. To a person like me, the music that I identify with in many ways represents community, connection, and authenticity that exists in the sacred space of the margins where people tend to be a little more thoughtful, a little bit weirder, and a helluva lot more authentic. I crave it, I value it, and I understand how fragile that authentic space is. Like a glass of water in the desert, I would never want to just throw it out there to over-hydrated groups of popular kids that couldn’t care less about it. Maybe the masses that love pop have a similar sacred community. I’ve never experienced it though. To my knowledge, there’s not a fringe group of uncool kids out there that are granting entrance into their highly vulnerable world by checking each others love of Adam Levine and Katy Perry tracks at the door. For part 3, we plan to explore further what that value of pop is. In the meantime check out this classic song from the margin of the early 2000’s. LP turned me on to this guy. We spent close to a year debating whether it was good or not. Turns out it was really good. If you listen to this song and it means something to you, next time you see me feel free to say “dude, you listen to LCD?!?” And we’ll probably be friends. Cheers! JJ POP VALUE PT 1: POST MALONE, MUSIC’S ALEX JONES October 21, 2018October 21, 2018 / TheListenInitiative / 2 Comments Everything we interact with has a value. Value discussions are always tricky because assigning value is largely subjective. A glass of water in the desert has a much higher value than the same glass of water in your kitchen. When we talk about art, and particularly popular art, this discussion can devolve quickly into personal attacks on another’s sensibilities. In certain circles, the term pop music is a dirty word. In others it is the banner of success. Music snobs turn up their noses at anything approaching mass popularity and the hoi polloi who adore it, while the populous sneer at the musical elitists for their inability to just have fun, and not take everything so seriously all the time. After interacting on the subject, each group inevitable throws up their arms and says to the other that “you just don’t get it.” Each is probably right. Labeling something pop music does not forever distinguish it as a lesser form of art. But being popular, likewise, does not in any way bestow value on the music or the listening experience. But speaking in generalities, the question should still be asked. Is there a viable concern that pop music should at least be approached with suspicion when it comes to its value? We hear a lot today about the polarization of the news media, where we are constantly confronted by the advocacy of skewed perspectives in the guise of fact and news, but how did we get here? A thoughtful consideration of how our news media got to where it is today can help us understand whether we should consider with skepticism the value of just routinely throwing on that Now That’s What I Call Music, Vol. 943 again. Once upon a time, American’s got their news from Walter Cronkite, considered “the most trusted man in America.” Today we are subject to news about the news. Whether it’s the generally harmless misremembrances of Brian Williams, or the anger inciting conspiracy theories of Alex Jones, things have clearly changed. Like anything, the news media has evolved over time. And like evolution does, that change mostly occurred gradually. But in the 1980’s and 1990’s, things began to change at a greater clip. Before that time, networks viewed news broadcasting as a public service. News bureaus were not cash cows, and accordingly, their motivations could be focused on the journalistic task at hand. In 1986, when Loews Corp. purchased CBS, that all began to change. The introduction of conglomerate ownership of television networks (Leows Corp. -> CBS; Capital Cities Communications and later Disney -> ABC; General Electric -> NBC) changed the landscape. With corporate oversight that required an alignment with shareholder values, (i.e. profits, profits, profits) news divisions were required to move from public service sectors to profit centers. When the primary question guiding your actions is, “what sells?”, it shouldn’t be surprising that the answer is sex, drugs, drama, and disagreement. And what is our news media these days, if not exactly that. Is it any wonder that there are concerns that our news media is not based on facts, perspective, and context. We are asking it to be entertainment, not news. Entertainment has value, but it is important to distinguish that its entertainment value does not correspond to an intrinsic news value. Back to music. An underlying proposition in much of what we do here at The Listen Initiative is that the things you listen to, combined with the way you listen to them, can have a big impact on the way you interact with the world. For better or worse. In past posts we have discussed how our art consumption can function as a sandbox for exercising our listening skills, and in the process, developing empathy, compassion, understanding, tolerance, etc. (see here & here for starters). These choices we make in our music listening can impact whether we are able to ward off many of the problems we see in society today and prepare us for real world interactions. And although I may never convince you that my musical value system is the right one, although I believe that has been shown to be true time and time again, asking some more pointed questions about our value systems can help move the needle in a positive direction. So, although all of us have strong opinions about our favorite music, consider the following as you take stock of your listening habits to see where there might be opportunity for introducing a glass of water into a desert space in your listening landscape: * Are there differences between what you like and what you find interesting? Focus on the interesting. * Identify one artist you like and one you don’t. For each of them, list three things you think they are great at and three things you think they are not the best at. * Look through this list, and find something you’ve never heard of and spend 20 minutes actively listening to it (i.e. active listening = listening being your primary activity of focus.) Maybe it’s not as imperative that we pick our music as carefully as our news, but skipping the low brow stylings of Post Malone for the constantly curve ball throwing likes of Tierra Whack (below) might actually be good practice for resetting your listening ear and help you avoid getting sucked into the spiral of group think echo chamber’s built by social media bots and Alex Jones. Tierra Whack Tuck Buckford DOES THE SPEAKER HAVE THE RIGHT-OF-WAY? (ON BEING A BETTER DRIVER) May 25, 2017May 25, 2017 / TheListenInitiative / Leave a comment The death of a media mogul might seem like a strange source for a Listen Initiative post, but JJ sent me this article titled Roger Ailes Was One of the Worst Americans Ever and the prompt question “What’s your take on this type of writing? Tiabbi is a really good writer. What do you think about him using his platform to write this. It’s an amazing piece but also a discouraging piece.” [For those who don’t care to read the article, it is a review of what the writer believes to be Ailes uniquely negative legacy in American culture and the media, and a somewhat celebratory announcement that the man was dead.] Reading the article under the influence of JJ’s prompt I was expecting something quite dramatic, but my response was probably a nod to what he found discouraging about the piece. I simply asked back, “is it different than other writing these days?” It seemed to me like a standard strongly worded partisan opinion piece, like the ones that permeate the media these days. Underlying JJ’s question was an inquiry into whether that’s the way it should be. Should we be writing and talking like this. Should our expressions be in such emotionally loaded terms to people in a vulnerable psychic state? Thinking about this article reminded me of an experience I had a couple of weeks ago. On a pleasant Saturday morning I was walking with my 4 and 6 year old boys to their t-ball game. We left the house early so that they could ride their bikes to the game. We got to a point where we needed to cross a crosswalk over to the elementary school field where the game was being played. There are no stop signs or lights at the intersection, but there is a large painted crosswalk and signs in either direction that look like this: A car approaching on the near side of the street saw us waiting on the sidewalk, ready to walk the boys’ bikes across the street, slowed and stopped to let us proceed. The cars on each side of the cross street also stopped. As we started walking across the street, I kept my eye on a minivan in the distance coming towards us in the far lane. By the time we walked slowly to the middle of the street it looked like the minivan still hadn’t seen us in the crosswalk. I started yelling towards the car and running, pulling my four year old to get out of the way. The car finally saw us as it entered the intersection and abruptly stopped just short of the crosswalk. Expecting an apologetic wave of acknowledgement, I was surprised when the driver started gesturing with his hands in frustration that we were in front of his van. [Now, at the risk of making this article seem like it is about pedestrians and traffic laws, I do want to clarify for all of those frustrated drivers out there who feel like the vehicle has the right of way because its bigger, faster, and as a driver you are always in more of a hurry than the pedestrian, (I mean, really, if the pedestrian were in as much of a hurry as you were they would have gotten in their car, right?) that in this scenario, pedestrians do have the legal right of way. Or as the Utah Code so eloquently puts it, “the operator of a vehicle shall yield the right-of-way by slowing down or stopping if necessary: (i) to a pedestrian crossing the roadway within a crosswalk when the pedestrian is on the half of the roadway upon which the vehicle is traveling; or (ii) when the pedestrian is approaching so closely from the opposite half of the roadway as to be in danger.] I am very understanding of initial mistakes, and with a simple acknowledgment would have walked on without another thought. But when he doubled down and with flailing limbs implied that we were in the wrong, my frustration began to boil. I pointed to the white stripes on the road and crosswalk sign and yelled back to him that we were in a crosswalk, assuming maybe he hadn’t noticed. He rolled down his window and continued yelling. I instructed my kids to keep going and get on the sidewalk, and having left my sons bike in front of his car so he couldn’t drive, walked over to his window. In a frustrated tone he said loudly, “get your F*%#ING kids out of the way so I can drive.” At this point I glared deep into his soul, leaned into his car and yelled so loudly into his face that spittle was flying out of my mouth and my throat was sore afterwards, “IT IS A CROSSWALK!” And then I turned and walked away, hearing him yell back “don’t you swear at me!” So, why would an article about Roger Ailes remind me of this experience, and why would I feel the desire to write about either here? JJ’s question made me consider, in our expressions, our speach, and our art, who has the right of way? The expresser/speaker/artist, or the listener/audience? We’ve previously discussed the question of who owns a forum in relation to the message from the Hamilton cast to Mike Pence. We’ve laid out concepts of free to listen zones as compared to free speech zones. And JJ and I have often discussed the concepts of expressive critique like political correctness, among other tagline in current media. My conclusion has been twofold, one, in the conflict between a speaker and a listener, the speaker has the right-of-way, and two, our focus should be more on disecting our listening and less on analysing the shoulds and shouldn’ts of expression. Our constitution sets us up for this conflict, thanks a lot Jimmy Madison! The preamble to the Constitution states, “We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility…establish this Constitution for the United States of America.” And then right there in the First Amendment, the Congress is prohibited from “abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press.” So which is it? Do we want a more perfect union of domestic tranquility, or similar collective benefits? Or do we want to preserve the individual freedom and opportunity for each and every individual to be able to speak freely* regardless of the resulting disunion and turmoil! The ratification and inclusion of the First Amendment answers that question. The decision was to preserve personal freedom or have no union. Domestic tranquility, and a more perfect union were the goal, but where the two might come in conflict, free speech takes precedent, as it should. Regardless of offensive result, or even malicious intent, the freedom of expression has the right of way. [*I understand that there are still constitutional limits to certain types of speech.] That’s all well and good as an academic snapshot, but that is also not to say that free speech rules supreme and we should ignore opportunities to advance a more perfect union and increase domestic tranquility without further consideration. My second realization from the article and the crosswalk experience was that we do ourselves a diservice focusing so much on disecting the shoulds and shouldn’ts of speech. We spend our days on semantics and speech checking, running the things we hear through our own TSA airport check, screening for what we deem to be wordly weapons that could cause damage, and shouting for the confiscation of opinions that we believe have the possibility of creating danger. But what if, rather than being a frustrated driver trying to argue the perameters of the crosswalk, what constitutes the driver’s half of the roadway, or how close must a pedestrian be to my approaching car to constitute “in danger” and require me to stop my vehicle, we instead focused on being more attentive, alert, and respectful drivers? In each of our metaphorical cars of life, what would happen if we lifted our foot off the taking offense pedal just a bit, and turned up the context knob on our stereo “all the way to 11.” Maybe even respectfully steer our car through a neighborhood unlike the one we are familiar with, and instead of comparing and being grateful that our roads are not like these, imagine what it would be like to grow up in this other place, to play in that park on the left that is so different than your own, or the school or church up around the corner, and what that might mean for the way we think, talk, and act. Everything we hear, read, or see has context behind it, and it may not be the context we assume. Especially in the current political and cultural climate, expressions of frustration and opinion are dripping with unarticulated context and life experience. Before moving to frustration and offense, can we add the speakers context to what we are hearing in an effort to better understand their perspective and motivation? Can we avoid imposing upon them our own judgment and believed context? If we can do that, I think we have a chance at fulfilling the goal of the preamble and moving, with freedom of expression, ever so slightly towards a more perfect union of justice and domestic tranquility. It will not be a world of homogeneity, but one of different and vibrant notes that, just like the notes of a chord, combine to equal more than just the sum of its parts. Look at that, circled all the way back to music! Who’d have thunk! Lp JJ requested an artistic visual representation, so here you go: IN MEMORIAM – CHRIS CORNELL May 19, 2017 / TheListenInitiative / Leave a comment Chris Cornell of Soundgarden, Audioslave, Temple of the Dog, etc. passed away this week. Chris Cornell changed music for me. I had Cobain, I had Vedder. I needed something different though. My first exposure to Cornell was on MTV’s late night alternative showcase 120 Minutes. It was this video. Watch at least to the 1:57 mark. My life changed. I had my new frontman. The hair, the voice, the everything. Henry Rollins once said that he went to a Soundgarden concert to see Chris Cornell peel the paint off walls with his voice. Cornell was a frontman for frontmen. My first rock band T-Shirt was a Soundgarden – Badmotorfinger shirt. The first album I wore out and had to buy a duplicate of was Badmotorfinger. It also happened to be the first CD that caused my DAD to come into my room and tell me he didn’t like what I was listening to. (Such an important moment!) It’s a sad day. The early 90’s were an awkward but a beautiful time. A group of musicians changed the musical and cultural landscape. Time has not been kind to that group as sadly many of them have left us too early. Add Cornell to that list. I hope history won’t forget about that era. I hope history won’t forget about Chris Cornell. His voice was incredible. He brought authenticity to a genre that quickly became a caricature of itself. He never forgot that it was always about the music. Cornell was a torchbearer for an era that totally altered how I consumed music. Here’s a few of my personal favorites. Rest in Peace to a beautiful musical soul. -JJ By the way, I know TOTD is a cheesy overplayed pick . What can I say, i’m feeling sentimental. Trading vocals with Vedder was a great idea. Vedder never stood a chance. And a super bonus…Cornell singing the lyrics to One by Metallica while playing the music to One by U2. Weirdly cool. CURIOSITY KILLED THE CAT AND OTHER BULLCRAP May 15, 2017May 15, 2017 / TheListenInitiative / Leave a comment Did you ever stop to think about the old saying “Curiosity killed the cat” and what it’s trying to tell us? It’s basically saying mind your own business and don’t poke your nose in places where it doesn’t belong. Seems reasonable enough right? Except it’s not. It turns out that there’s a whole lot of research studying the benefit of curiosity. Curiosity has been linked to better learning, improved coping efficacy and reduction in suicidal ideation, and has been suggested to be as important as overall intelligence to our well being. So why would we want to stifle our curiosity? (The conspiracy theorist with mild to moderate conduct disorder in me just assumes that this was a classic proverb perpetuated by institutions wanting to remain in power and prevent individuals from questioning things and expressing their individuality…but that’s a piece for a different day). As humans we are meaning making machines. Our brains have a natural predisposition to try and ascribe meaning to the things that happen around us. Art gives us a canvas that allows our brains the opportunity to practice making meaning. Our curiosity is the driving force behind our quest to make meaning of things! So ask yourself, how curious of an individual are you right now? Do you find yourself admiring the novel, and questioning the how and the why of things? Do you enjoy learning about new things and exploring new perspectives counter to your own? Do you question how things work? Do you find yourself trying to understand how other people feel and why they might feel that way. I recently read a piece by a book critic on the value of reading things that we hate. It was interesting. It made me think. I am wondering now what the overlap between hate-reading (or hate-listening) and curiosity is. It seems like sometimes, when faced with the option to consume art that challenges or disagrees with us, or that we just find contrary to our tastes we have a sort of artistic fight or flight instinct that kicks in. We either fight against it by trying to diminish the value of it or we just turn tail and run (flight) from it. I wonder if there’s a third option though that involves lingering and taking it in. Maybe that’s part of the purpose of curiosity. Some of my most valuable listening experiences (both with music and with people) have involved being faced with something where my natural inclination was to either run from or fight against but instead I allowed my curiosity to lead out and I stayed in the moment and just listened. I experienced that the first time I listened to a Public Enemy album, the first time I read the Autobiography of Malcolm X, and countless times professionally when I have been working with difficult, defiant adolescents. One of the articles I referenced earlier describes a Curiosity Quotient in which you can measure a person’s curiosity. It described people that have high CQ’s this way: “People with higher CQ are more inquisitive and open to new experiences. They find novelty exciting and are quickly bored with routine. They tend to generate many original ideas and are counter-conformist.” The good news is that unlike IQ which for the most part is static, CQ appears to be something that can be developed. Looking back at the ground we’ve covered here at The Listen Initiative I think I’m realizing that Curiosity has been one of the driving forces. Much of LP and my discussion is the result of our own curiosity. I hope you’ve read LP’s recent explorations around whether or not he’s buying the concept of empathy because they’re a direct result of his curiosity. Just like my thoughts on critics and cynics and empathy were a result of my curiosity. It’s the curiosity that drives us and prevents us from becoming too complacent with where we’re at. I’ve recently been curious about the principle of inertia as I’ve been experiencing the negative side to it. Inertia is “resistance of any physical object to any change in its state of motion; this includes changes to its speed, direction, or state of rest”. In other words something that is in motion wants to stay in motion, and something that is not in motion wants to remain not in motion. The inertia that I’ve been experiencing has been around my writing (or lack thereof). I’ve had about a 6 month (or longer haha) writers block. I’ve had plenty of good ideas that I’ve made a note of, and lot’s of great conversation and text threads with LP, but just haven’t been able to formalize them in writing. My writing vehicle came to a halt and I haven’t been able to put it in motion…it’s that darn inertia I tell ya. It finally hit me the other day that while we usually think of inertia in relation to physical objects, the principle probably also applies to other things as well such as emotion, relationships, intellectual endeavors, etc. And it probably (definitely) applies to curiosity as well. One of LP and my long standing questions is whether or not the climate around us is changing or are we just becoming stagnant and calcified. I think there’s a real potential that we do stagnate and calcify if we don’t stay in motion. Unbeknownst to us, maybe our curiosity has been our quest to keep the machine in motion. So what does this have to do with listening, empathy, music, or any of the other things that we frequent around here? Maybe nothing or maybe everything?!? I guess that’s up to you. At this stage if you’ve been with us in any capacity, hopefully it’s ignited in you a level of curiosity that wasn’t there before. And hopefully that will continue to grow. Because it turns out that your curiosity just may be increasing your overall quality of life. So go out and question things! Look up words and phrases when you don’t know what they mean! Question what you think you know, question what other people are telling you, question what you think you like! Try to figure out how something works! Try something new! Take up painting, or writing*, or woodworking, or just start listening to music again! Just don’t become intellectually content or complacent, and dammit be curious! It probably won’t kill you, and it might actually be the thing that saves your life! (A brief caveat here…if you can’t temper your curiosity with a little bit of common sense you may need a curiosity mentor in your life to help you out…I would recommend an LP if you can find one) (*Interesting side note – For me writing is the ultimate exercise in listening as I have to really listen to the thoughts that are in me and attempt to give them fair representation by putting them into words) To help you out here’s a few random songs for the curious individual. And thanks for continuing to join us on our journey. Your comments and perspective continue to fuel our own curiosity. Cheers! JJ Songs for the Curious Individual! JIMMER FREDETTE: THE FACE OF YOUR EMPATHY PROBLEM March 28, 2017 / TheListenInitiative / 1 Comment As I tried to walk myself back off the ledge from which I am considering pushing empathy off, I tried to do some research to see if there was anything that would give me pause. Was there anything that might dissuade me from giving empathy a little nudge and watch with satisfaction as it fell into oblivion. Maybe I just wasn’t thinking about it the right way. What might I be missing? I happened upon this RSA ANIMATE video of a Jeremy Rifkin speech on empathy. One of the things that I noted is his explanation that the expansion of empathy is directly correlated to our selfhood. Or as Rifkin puts it, “selfhood goes together with empathic development. Increase selfhood, increase empathic development.” This statement also frames the limits of empathy. Our empathy extends only as far as our selfhood and the ties we have and make with others. Throughout history, as technology advanced, people continued to find additional ties with other humans and as those ties were made, and those individual identities bonded together, the sphere of one’s potential empathy expanded to more and more people. We could now imagine better the feelings of more and more diverse individuals we may have never met. In many ways, these ties are simple fictions that we use to facilitate the extension of our selfhood. They are things that we have constructed. There is no nationality until we make a nation to belong to, there is no demographic until we decide a categorization matters. They are identities we use to feel bigger than ourselves, to feel connected. But as the world shrinks through technology and ability to travel far and wide, we seem to have also become more selective about what ties we will make. And thereby limiting the extent to which our empathy can operate. What does this have to do with, empathy or music? There’s really only one person that can help us figure this out…Jimmer. (If you know who I’m talking about already, then I am probably talking to you in particular. If you are not sure who Jimmer is, see here). Quick backstory for anyone who has yet to be “Jimmered.” Jimmer Fredette is a basketball player. He is Mormon, went to BYU, won nearly every college player award possible and was drafted into the NBA with high expectations. Jimmer ultimately washed out of the NBA and is currently playing in China. An empathy epiphany of sorts occurred a while back when my social media feed began buzzing about Jimmer scoring 73 points in a Chinese league basketball game (almost as impressive as the scoring total is the matador defense on display during the below highlight reel). The social media reaction I witnessed was a combination of communal elation in the “shared” accomplishment, accompanied by a good amount of outrage that “our” Jimmer, who just scored 73 points in a game, was not respected enough by NBA executives to still be in the league. People felt wronged on Jimmer’s behalf. They incorporated a projected empathy on themselves, and assumed they were feeling what Jimmer felt. Walking in his shoes if you will. People were glad to expand their selfhood to encompass Jimmer’s experience and express feelings of accomplishment and outrage, but why were they not equally willing to extend the same to Jared Cunningham? Who, you say? Oh…you didn’t hear about Jared? Jared Cunningham played basketball at Oregon State, he was drafted by the Cavs in the first round of the 2012 NBA draft, oh, and he scored 74 points in a Chinese basketball league game a couple months before Jimmer scored his pedestrian 73. He also didn’t need double overtime to do it like Jimmer did. But there was no buzzing about his accomplishment in my social sphere. There was no outrage about him similarly washing out of the NBA after high hopes. I heard nothing about it. Why? I’m sure there could be many reasons, but from my perspective, it is likely because the community surrounding me here in the shadow of the Y had made no ties to Jared. They had created no common kinship with which to mutually connect. And without expanding their ties to include players from Oregon State, or those drafted by the Cavs, or some other categorical association, there was no opportunity for empathy to surface on Jared’s behalf. Now this is certainly a trivial matter for a discussion about empathy, and this is not to say that people in my social sphere should have had the same reaction to Jared’s accomplishment. But it does highlight some of the self imposed limits of empathy, and provides a relevant example for why expanding your listening in a particular way may actually be essential in developing empathy for others. Music is a way for us to expand our selfhood to include cultures and individuals with whom we would have no other opportunity to connect. Music is an avenue for us to “annihilate time and space.” But only if we choose to break out of the echo chamber within which we are comfortable. It will happen only if we make repeated and consistent attempts to expand the sensory input we receive. And honestly and sincerely consider that which is specifically beyond our existing self. So where does that leave my relationship with empathy? I continue to cringe at the use, and I suppose, the predominant misuse of the word empathy. (If anyone feels inclined to do a research project surveying the use of the word “empathy” in news and media and determine the percentage of its proper use, I would greatly appreciate it. Lately, when I hear someone say “we need more empathy,” I get the sense that what they really mean is “I/we need you to listen to me/us better, and when you do, you will come over to my way of thinking and feeling”). For now, I haven’t pushed empathy over the cliff just yet, but the word hangs precariously on the edge, and I’m still in ready posture to give it that final nudge at a moments notice. But another statement from the Rifkin video got me to thinking about a few words we may want to use in it’s place in the meantime. My thoughts behind this statement will have to wait for another day, but I think it’s worth considering that “we show solidarity with our compassion.” Lp EMPATHY, YOU ARE DEAD TO ME! March 22, 2017March 22, 2017 / TheListenInitiative / 1 Comment I’m not an sentimental person, but I’m slowly getting better. I’m also not one for habitual expressions of affection. Some of this is a product of my introverted nature, but there is also an aspect of it that relates to my feeling that meaning and value can often be diminished through casual overuse. I once witnessed someone I know make a phone call to coordinate with a neighbor about who would pick up the kids from school or soccer practice or something. With rides successfully coordinated, this person ended the call with the habitual “love you” and hung up. Although it’s always nice to hear that you’re loved, I’m guessing this neighbor woman was a little confused by this unexpectedly affectionate farewell. Ed Catmull, the founder of Pixar, wrote that an adage worth repeating is also halfway to being irrelevant. His point was that he had witnessed many great sentiments that were slapped on bumper stickers or t-shirts with the best of intentions, only to become meaningless anecdotes disconnected from any behavior. These simplistic adages would be broadly appropriated, and in the process of ubiquitous use they would become increasingly distant from the complex topic that they were meant to point towards. The adage would ultimately stand independent of its context. It would no longer point towards a further destination, it would become the destination. Once it did, it would inevitably lose all purpose and meaning. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. At some point in the last couple of weeks I started to have a negative psychological reaction to the use of the word empathy. I’ve also been feeling a bit drained and under the weather so I might be having a negative physical reaction to the word as well. Maybe it has been due to overuse in politics, while witnessing a equal lack of action behind the use of the word. Whatever the reason, I have decided that it may be time for me to lay empathy to rest in the graveyard of words and adages, next to “open dialogue,” “political correctness,” “success,” “epic,” “leverage,” “mindfulness,” etc. Sadly, the word empathy has hit Journey level for me. It’s the point where something that is otherwise utterly…well…fine, becomes abrasive and off putting. Each time I hear the word used by some talking head on TV, an imploring podcast host, or in conversation among friends, I have started to cringe a little and experience that familiar shiver that runs down my spine each time I hear Joe Perry belt out the command that I don’t stop believin’! Well Joe, I have stopped believin’. I’ve stopped believin’ that conversations about empathy are moving us anywhere. Not because the fundamental concept is problematic, it is as important as ever, but the word seems to have lost its substance. And until the substance can be rediscovered, I think I will lay it to rest. Feel free to talk me down, from this ledge, but I’m not seeing a lot of behavior change by calls for just a little bit more empathy. The principles behind empathy are still essential and should continue to be promoted, but as a word – empathy, you are dead to me. Lp THE LANGUAGE OF ART (PART 3) February 28, 2017 / TheListenInitiative / Leave a comment In two previous posts, we have discussed being musically “from somewhere,” and a philosophy of travel through musical immersion. As I considered these concepts, another thought came to mind. What is the language of art, and how well do we “speak” it. Language has always fascinated me. And I’ve always loved science fiction. For these reasons, the recent movie Arrival piqued my interest. It is a fascinating portrayal of empathy, philosophy and language. The movie is based on the novella Story of Your Life by Ted Chiang. As with most great science fiction, and great art for that matter, embedded in surface level simplicity of an alien adventure is a depth that requires unpacking. Relevant to this blog post, that unpacking reveals the proposition that understanding another’s language influences the way we think, and is necessary for us to truly serve one another. We usually refer to language in the strict written or spoken form. And always reference this type of linguistic definition when asking what languages a person knows. Sometimes, we may refer to emotional modes of language like those referenced in the 5 Languages of Love. I don’t know that I have ever heard someone talk of musical languages, but how many musical languages do you know? How many genres do you feel you deeply understand and appreciate what is being communicated? Are there any genres you feel comfortable utilizing to communicate your own thoughts and feelings? Do you understand a variety of musical languages, but speak only a few. Or maybe you understand a few, but speak none? With this concept of musical languages in mind, consider this follow up challenge to the previous two challenges we gave to 1) listen to music “from” somewhere other than where you’re from and 2) seeing if you could travel through your focus on the feel of listening. In the first challenge, you were going for exposure. In the second challenge you were going for immersion. This challenge is for understanding and creation. This is a long term play, will take some time and effort, and can take many forms. Even if you don’t consider yourself to be musical, see if you can work on picking out a simple song on the piano for a few weeks and then take that experience with you as you listen to Ray Charles play the piano. If you picked up a guitar for a couple months in your youth thinking that it would be your ticket to getting the attention of some love interest but haven’t touched it in a while, go pick it back up and learn a simple blues scale and play it along with some blues song. Do you find that this experience improves your ability to listen and adds a perspective to the way you communicate? My experience is that if you will do that, you will start to hear things you have never heard before. And for some music you might not have heard before, here are some tracks by Johann Johannsson. He composed the soundtrack for Arrival and is one of my go to artists for mellow contemplative music. 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