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WHAT HARMS MARRIED PEOPLE’S HAPPINESS THE MOST, THERAPISTS SAY



Imagine this: you’ve met the love of your life, built a beautiful life together,
and said “I do.” Fairytales would have you believe that’s the end of the story,
the happily ever after.

But for many couples, reality sets in, and that happily ever after feels more
like a “maybe ever after.” What are the sneaky culprits behind this decline in
marital bliss?



Therapists who see couples on a daily basis weigh in on the top threats to a
happy marriage.


COMMUNICATION CATASTROPHE

Healthy communication is the bedrock of any strong relationship. But for
couples, effective communication goes beyond just talking.



It’s about truly listening to your partner, understanding their feelings, and
expressing your own needs clearly. Therapists often see couples struggling with
communication breakdowns. This can manifest in several ways:


CONSTANT CRITIQUING: 

Instead of offering constructive criticism, partners fall into a pattern of
negativity, focusing on what their spouse is doing wrong. This constant barrage
of negativity creates resentment and pushes partners apart.



Imagine feeling like you can’t do anything right, no matter how hard you try.
That’s not exactly a recipe for marital happiness.


THE SILENT TREATMENT: 

Sometimes, communication breaks down completely. Partners may withdraw
emotionally, refusing to talk or even acknowledge their spouse. This creates a
cold and isolating environment, leaving both partners feeling lonely and
unheard.




MIND READING MISHAPS: 

Have you ever expected your partner to magically know what you’re thinking or
feeling? Therapists say this is a recipe for disaster. Effective communication
involves expressing your needs and wants directly.

Don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader!




FINANCIAL FRICTION: WHEN MONEY TALKS, IT CAN YELL TOO

Money is a major source of stress for many couples. Disagreements about spending
habits, budgeting, and financial goals can quickly erode happiness. Here’s how
finances can wreak havoc on your marriage:


KEEPING SECRETS: 

Hiding bank statements or credit card bills from your partner creates a sense of
distrust and secrecy. This can be especially damaging if one partner is spending
frivolously while the other is struggling to make ends meet.



Open and honest communication about finances is crucial.


UNEQUAL EARNING POWER: 

Disparity in income can lead to feelings of resentment or insecurity. The
partner who earns less may feel financially dependent, while the higher earner
might feel like they’re constantly carrying the weight.



Talking openly about finances and creating a budget that works for both partners
is key.


DIFFERENT SPENDING HABITS: 

One partner might be a saver, meticulously tracking every penny, while the other
enjoys splurging on experiences. Finding common ground and compromising is
essential.



Perhaps you can agree on a set amount of “fun money” each partner gets to spend
freely, while the rest of the income goes towards shared goals.


DRIFTING APART: WHEN YOU’RE SHARING A ROOF, BUT NOT A LIFE

Life throws curveballs. Careers change, children arrive, and priorities shift.
If couples aren’t careful, they can find themselves growing apart emotionally.
Here’s how this disconnect can happen:




NEGLECTING QUALITY TIME: 

Between work, kids, and household chores, it’s easy to let date nights and
quality time together fall by the wayside.

Make a conscious effort to schedule regular time for just the two of you, even
if it’s just a quiet dinner at home after the kids are asleep.




LACK OF SHARED INTERESTS: 

While it’s healthy to have some independent hobbies, neglecting shared interests
can create a sense of distance. Find activities you both enjoy doing together,
whether it’s hiking, watching movies, or taking a cooking class.


UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: 

Fairytales portray love as a constant state of euphoria. Therapists warn that
unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment.

Remember, love takes work, and a happy marriage requires effort from both
partners to nurture the connection.


THE IN-LAWS: WHEN “FAMILY” FEELS LIKE A FOUR-LETTER WORD

In-laws can be a wonderful source of support, but they can also be a major
source of stress. Here’s how family dynamics can impact your marriage:


BOUNDARY BATTLES: 

Setting healthy boundaries with in-laws is crucial. Discuss with your partner
how you’ll handle unsolicited advice or intrusive behavior from family members.


FAVORITISM AND COMPARISON: 

If one partner feels their in-laws favor the other child, it can create
resentment and jealousy. Talk openly with your partner about how to navigate
these situations and present a united front.


UNINVOLVED OR OVERINVOLVED IN-LAWS: 

In-laws who are completely uninvolved can leave you feeling unsupported, while
overly involved in-laws can be intrusive and suffocating.

Communicate with your partner about what level of involvement feels comfortable
for both of you.


WHEN THE SPARK FADES

Physical intimacy is an important part of a healthy marriage. However, for many
couples, sex life can become routine or even non-existent over time. Here’s how
intimacy issues can affect your marriage:


DIFFERING LIBIDOS: 

Partners may have different sex drives, which can lead to frustration and
disconnection. Open communication is key. Talk about your needs and desires, and
be willing to explore ways to keep the spark alive.


UNRESOLVED CONFLICTS: 

Lingering resentment or unresolved arguments can create a barrier to intimacy.
Addressing these issues head-on is crucial for rebuilding trust and connection.


LIFE’S DEMANDS TAKING OVER: 

Between work, kids, and household chores, it’s easy to let intimacy fall by the
wayside. Make sex a priority. Schedule regular date nights, and create a space
for physical connection in your busy lives.


EXTERNAL THREATS

Life throws curveballs, and how couples handle these challenges can make or
break their marriage. Here are some external factors that can threaten marital
happiness:


JOB LOSS OR FINANCIAL STRAIN: 

Job loss or unexpected financial strain can be a major source of stress for
couples. Communicate openly about your anxieties and work together to create a
plan.


HEALTH ISSUES: 

A partner’s illness or chronic health condition can take a toll on both the
individual and the relationship. Offering support, empathy, and seeking
professional help when needed is crucial.


LOSS OF A LOVED ONE: 

Grieving the loss of a loved one is a deeply personal experience. Couples need
to allow each other to grieve in their own way, while also offering support and
understanding.


REMEMBER, YOU’RE NOT ALONE: SEEKING HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT

Marital challenges are a normal part of life. However, if you’re struggling to
navigate these challenges on your own, don’t hesitate to seek professional help.

A therapist can provide a safe space for couples to communicate openly, identify
unhealthy patterns, and develop tools to strengthen their relationship.


HAPPILY EVER AFTER? IT TAKES WORK, BUT IT’S WORTH IT

Marriage is a journey, not a destination. There will be ups and downs, moments
of frustration, and times when you question “happily ever after.” But remember,
a strong and fulfilling marriage is possible.

By prioritizing communication, managing finances effectively, nurturing your
connection, and seeking help when needed, you can navigate the challenges and
build a lasting and loving relationship.

So, the next time you find yourself questioning your marital bliss, remember,
you’re not alone. With a little effort and open communication, you can
strengthen your bond and create a happy and fulfilling marriage.


Author AmyPosted on April 18, 2024April 18, 2024Categories Articles


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