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ON IDOLIZATION

https://blog.matthewwang.me/life/concise21/2021/03/01/on-idolization.html

“I struggled with this significantly in high school. I had the pleasure of
working with some absolutely wonderful people. We debated together and against
each other; ran conferences and events; did community service. I’d constantly
rave about how insane, out of the world, and unbelievable they were. It was
constant and nagging. It seeped into my personality.”

“You implicitly invalidate any struggles they have, and eschew their private
life. Your praise becomes so diluted that it’s meaningless, just another reflex
or polite gesture.”

 * Reinforcement of impostor syndrome
 * Recognizing that excessive praise (even if genuine) can be toxic positivity
   * Sets unrealistic boundaries for how people should act all the time -> makes
     it hard for people to be truly vulnerable
 * How can we approach showing appreciation without being over-the-top about it?
   * acknowledging and normalizing failure -> failure resumes
   * creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversation as well as genuine
     celebration

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