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hjbender catasters
Posted on 27 March, 2024 Posted on Wednesday, 27 March 2024 Posted on Wednesday
March 27th Posted at 8:28 PM Posted on Wednesday the 27th of March 2024 at 8:28
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viralfrog



 * #fucking dying over this lmao

hjbender were--ralph
Posted on 27 March, 2024 Posted on Wednesday, 27 March 2024 Posted on Wednesday
March 27th Posted at 7:24 PM Posted on Wednesday the 27th of March 2024 at 7:24
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were--ralph



Do you have a college degree

Nope but I would like one

Nope and I'm fine without one

currently working on my first

Associate

Bachelor

Master

Doctoral

One but I will have a second soon

currently more than one

More than two

More than three.....?

Somehow, other.

Poll started on Wednesday, March 27, 2024 at 10:29:20 PM Poll ended on
Wednesday, April 3, 2024 at 10:29:20 PM

just on a random information kick i love knowing things i'll forget within
seconds that people most likely lie about anyway

 * #would love to advance my degree
 * #would love to just be back in academia again

hjbender winterbonesthings
Posted on 27 March, 2024 Posted on Wednesday, 27 March 2024 Posted on Wednesday
March 27th Posted at 1:10 PM Posted on Wednesday the 27th of March 2024 at 1:10
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grippysockgangg

Don’t underestimate my desire to not wanna

hjbender angrymadsygin
Posted on 27 March, 2024 Posted on Wednesday, 27 March 2024 Posted on Wednesday
March 27th Posted at 12:40 PM Posted on Wednesday the 27th of March 2024 at
12:40 PM
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REBLOG IF YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO REMEMBER WHAT A VCR IS.


 * #i remember having to rent VCRs and video cameras
 * #this was before they became somewhat affordable and available to anyone not
   in the upper class
 * #nothing beats the tactile and aural pleasure of feeding a video cassette
   into a VCR

hjbender ao3commentoftheday
Posted on 27 March, 2024 Posted on Wednesday, 27 March 2024 Posted on Wednesday
March 27th Posted at 10:04 AM Posted on Wednesday the 27th of March 2024 at
10:04 AM
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ao3commentoftheday

I’m thinking about perfectionism again, specifically with respect to how it can
skew your opinion of success and failure.

There’s this concept that comes up a lot when you read about issues like
perfectionism: all-or-nothing thinking. It’s a trap that’s easy to fall into.

If you’re a fic writer falling into this trap, you might feel like you’re an
absolute failure if your fic isn’t a 100% accurate depiction of the scene you
see in your head with flawless grammar and zero typos. That is a, quite
literally, impossible standard to meet and as a result of never meeting it, you
probably feel one or more of the following:

 * lack of motivation
 * certainty that there’s no point in even trying
 * self-hatred or some other form of intense dissatisfaction with yourself
   and/or your skills

This is a completely logical way to feel in that mindset, by the way. Your
standard for success is so high that you’re constantly a failure. If your
standard for success is impossible to meet, then there is no point in trying. If
there’s no point in trying, how could you possibly feel motivated?

In order to move away from those feelings, you need to move away from that
all-or-nothing, black & white mindset.

One way to do this is by figuring out a new standard for success that
actually can be achieved. For example, give yourself permission to have
occasional typos in your stories. Gaiman’s Law states that an author will always
find a typo the first time they open their published book. If even Neil himself
has resigned himself to this fate, then hopefully you can too. If you managed to
write your story then that’s a success and finding a typo after you’re done
doesn’t turn that success into a failure.

Another thing that’s helped me is to think of every failure or mistake or
dissatisfying result as a learning opportunity. If I’m not able to do
something now, that doesn’t mean I won’t be able to do it at some point in the
future. I just need to keep trying. Practice makes better. Practice also helps
you figure out the things that are easy for you and the bits that are hard and
where you might need some help - either from a fellow fan or from another kind
of resource.

I think part of the reason why people can get so anxious about their fanworks is
because we care so much about them. We love the characters. We love the world.
We want to do them justice in our writing, and we want other fans to love our
creations too.

It’s important to remember that all of us love imperfect things all the time.
It’s not perfection that makes a thing lovable. It’s the heart that’s put into
it.

There’s a lot of fear behind perfectionism. Fear of being caught doing something
wrong. Fear of being shamed for a mistake. Fear that imperfection makes us
unworthy or unlovable. Fear that a single flaw will ruin an entire work. Fear of
failure.

If you want to be able to move through that fear, you need to be able to reduce
it somehow. The most effective way that I’ve found is to stop writing with the
goal of posting something online. Write for the sake of writing, without the
pressure of showing it to someone else. That might help you to get out a first
draft (or second or third) without that worry about being judged and found
wanting.

If you’re not ready for positive self-talk or reframing the internal narrative
(I get it. Been there.) then allowing yourself to be less than perfect in a
place where no one else can see you might be a good first step.

And just because I think it’s important that you hear it from time to time: you
are a wonderful, creative, amazing human being - mistakes included.

 * #good advice
 * #writing tips
 * #perfectionism
 * #gaiman’s law
 * #neil gaiman

hjbender iwritesometimes
Posted on 27 March, 2024 Posted on Wednesday, 27 March 2024 Posted on Wednesday
March 27th Posted at 9:34 AM Posted on Wednesday the 27th of March 2024 at 9:34
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dni-archive



ALT
abysslll



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itsladykit

Motion Picture Association of America.

osterby

I am going to hit these people with a cardboard tube. Half of 'em have straight
up guro kinks and are out there trying to kinkshame people for looking at naked
boobs.

bigbigbigtruck

screencapped post by mastercard

hjbender primeemeraldheiress
Posted on 27 March, 2024 Posted on Wednesday, 27 March 2024 Posted on Wednesday
March 27th Posted at 9:02 AM Posted on Wednesday the 27th of March 2024 at 9:02
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haystarrs-deactivated20200728




peakingeveryday




musiccat1971



hjbender winterbonesthings
Posted on 27 March, 2024 Posted on Wednesday, 27 March 2024 Posted on Wednesday
March 27th Posted at 8:32 AM Posted on Wednesday the 27th of March 2024 at 8:32
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six-demon-bag

i am once again asking for my fics to be finished without me having to write
them

 * #i want to read them!!
 * #but i cant write them fast enough t o satisfy my demanding brain who only
   wants to read them
 * #<- same
 * #need a direct brain to paper option
 * #that doesn’t use ai
 * #writing woes

hjbender the-blind-geisha
Posted on 26 March, 2024 Posted on Tuesday, 26 March 2024 Posted on Tuesday
March 26th Posted at 10:30 PM Posted on Tuesday the 26th of March 2024 at 10:30
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pro-bopass

[A screenshot of a tweet reading, "We gotta stop viewing someone blocking u as a
"gotcha," or some admission of guilt when so much more often it is simply
"Squire, remove this jester from my court, as they do not bring me joy."]

hjbender winterbonesthings
Posted on 26 March, 2024 Posted on Tuesday, 26 March 2024 Posted on Tuesday
March 26th Posted at 10:02 PM Posted on Tuesday the 26th of March 2024 at 10:02
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princessssd24

“its been a long week” me on a Tuesday

hjbender the-blind-geisha
Posted on 26 March, 2024 Posted on Tuesday, 26 March 2024 Posted on Tuesday
March 26th Posted at 9:58 PM Posted on Tuesday the 26th of March 2024 at 9:58 PM
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ad-wills



ALT
 * #readers can forgive a not so watertight plot
 * #but they won’t forgive having to read ‘looked’ 16 times in 2 paragraphs
 * #writing woes

hjbender olderthannetfic
Posted on 26 March, 2024 Posted on Tuesday, 26 March 2024 Posted on Tuesday
March 26th Posted at 7:54 PM Posted on Tuesday the 26th of March 2024 at 7:54 PM
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olderthannetfic





Speaking of shit that doesn't have that much fic on AO3...

 * #yaoi barber—i mean flower shop quartet
 * #i have never seen an episode in my life
 * #i can’t name a single character
 * #wait the brooding seme redhead was named asa?
 * #idfk
 * #but i remember the yaoi
 * #was this the origin of flowershop au?

hjbender winterbonesthings
Posted on 26 March, 2024 Posted on Tuesday, 26 March 2024 Posted on Tuesday
March 26th Posted at 5:50 PM Posted on Tuesday the 26th of March 2024 at 5:50 PM
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Anonymous asked

How many first cousins do you have? A first cousin is any offspring of your
parents' siblings.

I have no first cousins

1 cousin

2-3 cousins

4-5 cousins

6-7 cousins

8-10 cousins

11-15 cousins

16-25 cousins

26-50 cousins

51+ cousins

apolladay replied

How many first cousins do you have? A first cousin is any offspring of your
parents’ siblings.

I have no first cousins

1 cousin

2-3 cousins

4-5 cousins

6-7 cousins

8-10 cousins

11-15 cousins

16-25 cousins

26-50 cousins

51+ cousins


 * #literally no idea
 * #my dad had 5? siblings my mom 3
 * #but both their families were awful they moved 800 miles away and i grew up
   having never met the majority of them

hjbender winterbonesthings
Posted on 26 March, 2024 Posted on Tuesday, 26 March 2024 Posted on Tuesday
March 26th Posted at 5:20 PM Posted on Tuesday the 26th of March 2024 at 5:20 PM
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ad-wills



ALT
 * #writing woes
 * #and wins

hjbender beyoursledgehammer
Posted on 26 March, 2024 Posted on Tuesday, 26 March 2024 Posted on Tuesday
March 26th Posted at 4:48 PM Posted on Tuesday the 26th of March 2024 at 4:48 PM
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maelwife

I always read RHCP as………………….. Rocky Horror Chili Peppers

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