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AN OPEN LETTER

A digital journal

IthakaOn Art, and Being HumanFeeling like Cm7I did it again anywaysThank youThe
purpose of this Blog


FRIEREN

5. September 2024

I kinda get why people like it so much. I think if you give it your full
attention, you feel the weight the original artists put behind it. Holy shit,
the way I’m giggling like a little kid.


ANOTHER LEVEL OF CANDOR (AGAIN?)

4. September 2024

Ok, this isn’t something I typically write about but I think it’s what I’m going
to tweak about on public display for today. I played two games of League with A,
and so we were playing in bronze. I fucking lost on Rengar. Badly. Like the
opponents were 200 games negative win rate low silver, and I got shit on. What
happened to me? I genuinely was so powerless that game, Briar invaded me 24/7
and I could not get my teammates to rotate no matter how much I called for it
even when they were able to. But at the same time, their team collapsed and
protected their jungle more often than not. They somehow had academy-level
coordination and cohesion as a team, and my team looked at me and put another
spoonful of lead paint into their mouths. I just sit here now broken as a man,
with nothing left to show for it. I am washed.


BIG BOY PURCHASE

3. September 2024

I spent 4.7k today getting four round-trip tickets to Japan and back for this
December, and now I need to wait for them to pay me back when they can.
Immediately they started making some jokes about how I’m not seeing that money
again, which I’m thankful I’m not actually doubting them about. I’m really
looking forward to this trip, and I am also pretty proud of myself for being the
one to basically spearhead and it and plan things out, since I wouldn’t have
thought that’s something I’m capable of doing. I’ve been going a little bit
crazy on the excel sheets, which is kinda fun I will say. I’m very excited to
meet them in person, and to do fun shit together.


THAT'S ALL IT TAKES

2. September 2024

I got coffee with C this morning, and finished up a good amount of chores. I
texted several friends, and just sat in call playing random games and watching
youtube with S. I’m very thankful to have the friends I do, and I think I’m
incredibly fortunate with that.


AUG 31

2. September 2024

Oopsie, I forgot to post something yesterday – I went to S’s parent’s house and
helped out with yard work for several hours, and had dinner with them and just
talked. Today I asked C to get coffee and we just talked for a while catching up
on life. It’s not that hard.


I WANTED TO KILL MYSELF OVER THAT??? LMAOOO

31. August 2024

Doomsday happened, and it was ok. I did end up crying 3 times at work which is
hilarious because I don't think I've cried 3 times in a day before in my life,
so hey! Progress.

I dropped V off at the airport, and he helped me understand what a good friend
is like. A’s flight got cancelled and since I was there I ended up giving her a
ride back and offering for her to stay in my apartment for the night. In front
of my face she called someone else after saying she felt guilty for using him so
much, and asked to stay at his house. I think once the initial hurt and
frustration went away I think I can understand why, after all we really aren't
that close and she probably can get a full bed or something there and not have
to sleep on the floor with a dog. But also I think that kind of broke me out of
my idealized world, and I got to see things a little more lucid. She has been a
pretty bad friend from an outside perspective, but I still enjoyed the
relationship. But also I'm kinda free to not feel bad or worry about anything
because there's been a couple points which have showed she doesn't really
consider me a friend, at least in my sense. And so to respect myself I'm not
investing in this but rather just using this as an experiment to learn from. I
got a little bit of exposure therapy by asking her to pay for part of the gas
for the ride back which she begrudgingly accepted. Also I think I got a little
bit more but that sweet sweet experience of doing something nice while knowing I
will get no reward or return, and so I know I'm genuine. After she refused to
give me a little candy that she brought 3 of (after she has eaten countless
snacks that I have brought, and has accepted numerous rides for free) I still
bought her a taco from Taco Bell because we were drunk and she was hungry but
couldn't justify spending money for it herself. I would like to be an
unapologetically kind person, and I want to work towards that. I think I
struggle with a sense of community because of my childhood, but a benefit of
that is how I didn't need to conform to my surroundings and I grew up as I did.
I had plenty of time to think, and after all if I think the point of life is to
experience as much as you can, then what better way than this. I'm nowhere near
perfect, but I have raised myself to be someone I am proud of. I can go to sleep
at night and be happy with myself.

Weirdly, seeing how A has been treating me made the clouds part. That combined
with talking it out with people who love me.


THE VIEW IS BETTER THAN SIX FEET UNDER

30. August 2024

If I knew that it would all work out in the end would I enjoy the journey


RECKLESS ABANDON

29. August 2024

I find myself still preemptively hiding my meanings behind weird little blurbs
of text. I set my status to “propped up” – to refer to the handful of stimulants
I’ve been using daily to give me enough energy to not be depressed I guess.
Today V and I finally took the random brain pills that were in my desk since the
start, since today was effectively the last day we would be able to do that.
Surprisingly the pills worked, and we locked the hell in for a few hours. Later
we even got T to take one when she came up for a snack.

V is leaving in two days, along with A, K, I, and probably a few others I can’t
remember right now. Thankfully T is still here, so that’s one familiar face. H
left last week.

In my prior internships and summers, I just spent the time alone. I didn’t make
any friends at work, and so I would just do my work and then go home to spend
time with online friends where I could. I guess I was resigned to that fate to
some extent. This internship I somewhat was going to do the same thing, but V
made everything so much easier by adopting me like an introvert. Through him I
met so many new people, and made good friends. These friends made everything so
much less lonely. And those same friends are the ones who are going to make it
so much lonelier when they leave. How does that quote go: “how lucky I am to
have something that makes saying goodbye so hard”.

I’m really going to strangely miss A. I think objectively she hasn’t been a
great friend, there have been several things shes done that’s hurt my feelings
and made me feel like I was somewhat taken advantage of – but at the same time
she was great company and easy to talk to. It’s also nice to kinda see someone
who can relate to depression at least. I enjoy talking to her.

I’m going to miss V a lot also. Interacting with him is always fun. I’m thinking
back to the times we went test driving, and how he would hold everyone captive
in the car as he attempts to kill us all. I always thought that was hilarious.
Also our pingpong, I still don’t have the heart to tell him I let him win or get
close so he keeps playing with me. He also did beat me at gokarting that one
time fair and square which the inner child in me is still salty about. I’m glad
to have friends to do things with.

I was talking to Pi earlier because the friends I reached out to were all busy,
and I didn’t have it in me to ask for help explicitly. I told Pi that I felt
like I had found people who get me at this internship more than I normally feel.
I think it helps to be surrounded by people who are also CS or engineering,
because they see the world in a similar way. I’m not getting clowned for using
words like “heuristic” in a sentence, even though I do think I somewhat should
be.

I’m afraid to lose these people, because that means that work will be a lot
lonelier for the other 22 remaining days. I’m also afraid because is this what
life is doomed to? Time to make another set of friends for one more year before
we all move apart and stop keeping contact. I do mourn that sometimes. I think A
would love to just rip it up on the highway, but at the same time would be
somewhat afraid and look at me with the crazy eyes and make some joke about me
trying to kill us both. He’s one of the funniest people I know, and I’m sad that
I don’t get to interact with him nearly as much anymore.

This cycle is scary to me, but at the same time I do want to acknowledge the
fortune I’ve had from having an online adolescence. My online friends like S, T
and L have been with me for years, and it doesn’t matter where we move. I did
wish that similar to Didi there was some media that portrayed my childhood. But
also how the fuck is that supposed to work? I could not think about a single
nice way to have a movie of a childhood on a computer, at least in a film
setting. When I said this to A, she said she wouldn’t want to see a film like
her childhood, and asked why I would want to. For me the answer popped up
instantly, and it was because I wanted to know that I wasn’t alone in that
experience. I think it’s almost ironically funny how difficult it must be to
find someone who grew up like that, by virtue of the circumstances themselves.

After I tried crying in the shower to get some of these emotions out (I failed),
I turned off all the lights except for my computer (which I forgot), and sat
under the table on the other side of the room. I set a 15 minute timer, and just
thought. Weirdly, that actually made me feel a lot better. It felt like that
crushing dread and fear at least shifted. Probably because Hash saw me sitting
on the floor and took it as an opportunity to sit on my lap, and once he was
bored of being pet, we played some fetch. I’m grateful I’m not alone because I
have Hash.

If I’m being honest, I’m afraid of the future. I don’t know how it’s going to
go, and my brain has convinced me that I will be alone, since I don’t have faith
in my ability to do things like make friends or adjust. It’s a terrifying thing,
and I wish that I had the chance to learn that as a kid. But hey, at least I’m
good at coding. I have to take whatever victories I can from that childhood.

I guess I’m kinda happy that I haven’t found my community or ideal friends yet,
since life is still all in motion. It would hurt a lot to have to say bye to
community due to something else, and I don’t know if I could bring myself to do
that. I mean I literally was going to deny an Amazon SWE position paying $90 an
hour to instead work at my current internship, mostly because then I’d be able
to see S and L over the summer, and go on that roadtrip. They not once mentioned
the roadtrip, and I only saw S twice lol. S has somewhat moved on and has
prioritized her new irl relationships which I can’t blame her for, but it is a
pretty big indicator on how things will go once we both graduate. I find myself
being the one to reach out, and trying to interact and maintain that
relationship. It’s a shame, but I guess I’ll just put it on pause until we get
back in person and see how that goes. I guess something to be optimistic about
is how happy I am with poor relationships across the board – that’s one perk of
having a low bar, I’m happy with so little. I don’t mean that in any bad way at
all even though I now see how that reads, but I genuinely really do appreciate
and value traditionally poor relationships. I’m just happy to be here I guess,
even in a cosmic sense. Once my forearms heal hopefully I can at least get out
some of this emotion in the gym and that’ll help.


DIDI

28. August 2024

I went to watch Didi with two friends, And the movie really resonated with me in
multiple different ways. I originally planned to write an analysis of some of my
thoughts, but when dropping A off we were talking and after sitting in her
driveway for a bit I asked if it was fine for me to keep driving and she said
sure. We ended up driving for like 3 more hours, and it's now 2:00 in the
morning with work tomorrow. Ill hold off for another day, but I do think these
2:00 a.m. talks or something that are worth it.


I FELT BETTER

27. August 2024

Thank god yesterday seems to be a temporary thing. I feel more or less better
now, Still maybe not perfect, but better for sure. I think getting plenty of
sleep helped – speaking of which I should have done today. I’m still sad that a
lot of my friends are leaving this Friday because of the semester system, but at
least it was a good reminder of how nice things can be if I give things a
chance.

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