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 * OLIVER SIM IS READY FOR HIS SOLO MOMENT
   
   After over a decade in the xx, the singer-songwriter is releasing music under
   his own name.


 * THE SUNBEARER TRIALS IS A WINDOW INTO A RICH WORLD OF QUEER DEMIGODS
   
   Cemetery Boys author Aiden Thomas is back with a high-stakes adventure full
   of queer Latinx magic.


 * AUGUST’S TOP QUEER SONGS ARE GIVING ’90S VIBES AND POP-PUNK ENERGY
   
   Listen to Demi Lovato, San Cha, Fusilier, and more artists on our monthly
   queer playlist.


 * MIMI ZHU IS NOT AFRAID OF LOVE
   
   The Brooklyn-based artist’s candid debut Be Not Afraid of Love is a powerful
   reclamation of human connection.


 * RASHEED NEWSON’S DEBUT NOVEL RETELLS THE EARLY YEARS OF AIDS IN NEW YORK CITY
   
   My Government Means to Kill Me follows one teenager’s path through the
   crisis.


 * MICHELLE TEA ON THE LIFE-CHANGING EXPERIENCE OF QUEER PREGNANCY
   
   The prolific author’s new memoir Knocking Myself Up details a unique
   childbirth journey.


 * READ ME: THE VIRAL UNDERCLASS EXPLORES THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN INEQUALITY
   AND ILLNESS
   
   Dr. Steven Thrasher’s genre-defying debut explores shame, stigma, and
   sickness.


 * TEGAN AND SARA, LAVA LA RUE AND SHEA COULEÉ: OUR JULY 2022 QUEER MUSIC
   MONTHLY
   
   Our playlist highlights the best LGBTQ+ music released this month.


 * 7 FILMS AND SHOWS WITH MESSY, AMAZING, RIDICULOUS, AND REAL LGBTQ+ DISABLED
   CHARACTERS
   
   From Margarita with a Straw to the new Queer as Folk, some creators are
   finally getting it right.


 * HOW BROOKLYN BECAME THE BIRTHPLACE OF BOUNDARY-PUSHING DRAG
   
   Nicole Pasulka’s How You Get Famous traces the dramatic expansion of a
   once-underground form.


 * PRIDE IS OVER. FEED YOUR QUEER WRATH WITH THESE TV SHOWS AND FILMS
   
   From nihilistic road trips to lesbian vengeance, this list has everything.


 * MUNA, HALSEY, AND MICHAEL LOVE MICHAEL: OUR JUNE 2022 QUEER MUSIC MONTHLY
   
   Our playlist highlights the best LGBTQ+ music released this month.


 * WHAT TO WATCH: 5 LGBTQ+ VACATION MOVIES TO STREAM THIS SUMMER
   
   If you liked Fire Island, you'll love this list.


 * 10 LGBTQ+ SHORT FILMS AVAILABLE TO STREAM RIGHT NOW
   
   From a film about trans rage to one that honors lesbian pleasure, these
   shorts highlight the weird, wonderful fringes of queer filmmaking.


 * HAYLEY KIYOKO, G FLIP, AND MOORE KISMET: OUR MAY 2022 QUEER MUSIC MONTHLY
   
   Our playlist highlights the best LGBTQ+ music released this month.


 * WHAT TO WATCH: 7 OF THE BEST SOUTH ASIAN LGBTQ+ MOVIES ON STREAMING
   
   Lesbian screwball comedies, gay dramas, trans rom-coms, and so much more.


 * WHAT TO WATCH: 7 LGBTQ+ MOVIES TO STREAM FOR AAPI HERITAGE MONTH
   
   From Spa Night to Mishima, these queer films are May favorites.


 * ANGEL OLSEN, THE BLSSM, AND FASHION CLUB: APRIL QUEER MUSIC MONTHLY
   
   Our playlist highlights the best LGBTQ+ music released this month.


 * THE 11 BEST LGBTQ+ MOVIES TO WATCH WHILE HIGH
   
   From Smiley Face to Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, get hazy with a queer
   classic.


 * THE 15 BEST LGBTQ+ MOVIES TO STREAM ON HULU
   
   We’re here to help you find your next favorite film.


 * PRINCESS NOKIA, ZORA, HERCULES & LOVE AFFAIR: MARCH QUEER MUSIC MONTHLY
   
   Our playlist highlights the best LGBTQ+ music released this month.


 * READ ME: VAGABONDS! SEARCHES FOR QUEER SOLACE AMID THE CHAOS OF LAGOS
   
   Eloghosa Osunde’s debut novel showcases queer outcasts navigating Nigerian
   life.


 * 7 CLASSIC ’90S ACTION MOVIES THAT ARE GAY IN MY MIND
   
   There wasn’t much queer representation in the blockbusters of our youth but
   we used our imaginations anyway.


 * OUR FAVORITE QUEER FILMS OF 2021
   
   Skip the Oscar bait and watch these instead.


 * HALSEY, REMI WOLF, MACY RODMAN: 10 BEST NEW SONGS BY QUEER ARTISTS
   
   Plus, a dark-pop gem from Atlanta-based experimentalist Edge Slayer.


 * KARI FAUX, LOTIC, PERFUME GENIUS: 10 BEST NEW SONGS BY QUEER ARTISTS
   
   Plus, a collection of ‘80s covers from Angel Olsen.


 * CHIKA, MITSKI, 100 GECS’ LAURA LES: 8 BEST NEW SONGS BY QUEER ARTISTS
   
   Plus, a compilation of club bangers from the New Orleans-based DJ collective
   Trax Only.


 * LADY ROMEO TELLS THE STORY OF A FORGOTTEN QUEER SHAKESPEARE ACTRESS
   
   Known for playing both male and female roles, Charlotte Cushman lived beyond
   gender and sexual norms at a time when it was far from common. This new
   historical biography resurrects her remarkable life.


 * READ ME: ANNA DORN CASTS PRIVILEGED QUEERS AS THE MONSTERS THEY MAY ACTUALLY
   BE
   
   In her new novel, Vagablonde, the author writes about a “grotesque” woman,
   inviting us to interrogate her behavior.

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